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Forgiving someone who you feel is responsible for a loved one’s death is a hard one to choke down. I was young when we lost my uncle. He was riding a bicycle and a teenager hit him with their car killing my uncle instantly. He left behind a wife and two young daughters. Through it all, I remember so much hurt and so much anger. Even more so as the events of that evening had been made clear and the teenager’s family tried to help their child escape trouble. The whole situation wasn’t fair.
It wasn’t until one day my family as a whole decided that enough was enough. We couldn’t control the teenager, we couldn’t change the events that had happened, all we could control where our own actions. Being a family of devout Christians we realized that if we were ever going to get passed all the hurt, bitterness and anger we were going to have to cling to God. Not only were we going to have to cling but we were going to have to forgive.
Forgiveness is something that may be one of the hardest things to give when you are giving the loss of a person due to a wrongful death. Instead, you want to hold on to that anger. You want revenge….This is our human nature speaking. The fact remains, we may not be able to control another person’s actions but we can control our own.
Just as God forgives us it is important that we also do so to others. Easier said than done (even more so in this case) however it is still important because refusal to do so will only eat you up more consuming you with anger and grief and will cause you to remain in a state of grief. However, offering forgiveness strengthens your trust in God that justice will be served in a way that He sees fit.
Grieving the loss of a loved one is hard enough. There is no need in making the process any hard by refusing to allow God to take control of the situation.
Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,
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