Motherhood is a wonderful journey. However, if we aren’t careful we can allow motherhood to actually steal from our marriage. As a matter of fact, if you are reading this then you are aware that it is already happening to you.
When you became a mother chances are your biggest concern was trying to make sure that you were being the best mom possible. You probably hours researching ways to do things effectively. Invested time in making sure that you were spending as much time that was humanly possible with your little one. Which hey all of these things are great and honestly we all do it. The problem is that we as mothers become so fixated on our children that one day we look at that man living in our home and wonder who he is because we haven’t taken the time to connect. We also forget that in order to be the best wife possible we need to first strive to be the best wife we can possibly be.
Many times we forget that part of our motherhood journey is actually maintaining a healthy marriage. Not only is it important for our motherhood journey but it is also the way that God designed our family unit to be.
So How Can We Make Sure to Keep Motherhood From Stealing From Our Marriages?
- Make sure to talk about more than just the children: Yes, we should keep our husbands in the loop about things that are going on with the children. However, too many times we allow motherhood to suck us into the point that it is all that we actually talk to our husbands about. We need to talk to them about our relationship, about our marriages, about hopes and dreams and well I think you get the idea.
- Dare to flirt: Yep, in the midst of dirty laundry piles, dirty diapers and dirty dishes take a few minutes to flirt. It shows your man that you are still completely in love with him.
- Ditch the pajamas on occasion: Y’all, I love my pajamas. They are comfortable and I would be lying if I didn’t say that there are days that I simply refuse to get dressed. (If you follow me on Instagram then you know this to be the truth) However, we have to still be willing to put in some effort in the way we look and not because we have to actually leave the house.
- Have a date night with no children talk allowed: Every time I mention date night I receive emails about how date nights don’t happen because you don’t have a babysitter. Truth is 90 percent of the time I don’t either. Yet, weekly my husband and I have a date night in after the children are tucked in. During your date nights make it a rule that you both will not discuss the children at all. Instead, spend time talking to each other about other things….Think about the conversations you two had before children.
The fact is, long after our children move out we will be married to our husbands. Wouldn’t it be a good idea to make sure to invest time into keeping your marriage strong?
Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,