We have all hear this phrase after a major loss of a loved one or friend…..”I know how you feel”. Deep down we think that it is making that person feel better when that phrase exists our mouths and yet really and truly it is doing absolutely nothing for that person. You see the “I know how you feel” phrase is simply not true.
The fact is no one ever truly knows how someone feels after they suffer a loss. In fact, the person who is suffering from grief doesn’t even really know how they feel because grief is not something that can truly be described by one word or emotion.
“People can say,’I know how you feel.’ But the reality is no one knows how much you loved the one you lost.” —Zig Ziglar from Grieving with Hope
The fact is no one knows what’s in your heart. Sure we all go through the same grieving process but grief is unique for each individual person. The whole process is one that is different for each individual person and yet it has the same stages.
The Common Experiences:
- Feeling like you are losing your mind.
- Physical problems
- Tangled ball of emotions
- Spiritual dryness
- Emotional ambushes
The grieving process takes time and if varies for each person. The important things to remember that though you feel as though you are all alone you aren’t….God is right there holding your hand. We also have to remember that we have to face these feelings and know that what we are feeling is normal and if it doesn’t get better we must seek professional help.
Where Am I On this Journey?
Personally, I am a bottle of emotions. Happy one minute sad the next. Angry at some points rejoicing other times. I feel lonely though I am surrounded in a house filled with people who love me to the ends of the Earth. Yet, I have hope. Hope that one day I will be able to write again without wiping away tears, laugh without feeling guilty that my life continues on after theirs has ended, and remember amazing moments and conversations without feeling sorrow.
That’s how I feel. Yet, even on the good days, I will never be able to explain it well. And no one truly will ever know how I feel.
Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,
This post is part of a book club study that I am going with my best friends Rosilind and Misty.The book is called “Grieving with Hope” written by Samuel J IV and Kathy Leonard. Each week we will be discussing each chapter on our sites and share what we are walking away with from that week’s reading. We would love it if you would join us on this journey.
Here are their posts for this week: